Small-site multi-homing is one of the great inequities of the Internet and one that can, and should, be solved. I envision an Internet of the future where anyone with any mixture of any type of network connections can achieve, automatically, provider independence and inbound/outbound load sharing across disparate links. Gone is the built in hostage situation of having to either use your provider assigned IP's (>%99 of internet connected sites today), or the quantum leap of being an AS with PI space (and the associated technical baggage to configure and manage that beast). End users should have the power to dictate their own routing policies and not suffer thru 'damping', 'urpf', or other policies imposed on how or when their packets come and go. So if you want to use 2 dsl lines and a CDMA modem, or a satellite and a fiber, or 27 dial up modems and a T1, you should be able to do that and the network should work with you to deliver your packets no matter where 'you' connect or how. What it's gonna take is new routing paradigms and new thinking about the role of providers and users and a lowering of the barriers between these two for more cooperation in the overall structure of the network. Just like classfull addressing giving way to cidr, I belive hierarchal routing will give way to truely dynamic routing where all participants have equal capabilities over their own domain with no one (or group) of 'providers' having any more or less influence on global reachability for any 'users' who choose to go their own way, and I expect that to be an easy (or even default) choice in the future. You may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one. I hope some day you'll join us, and the world will live as one.
What is the issue here, that your DSL provider won't speak BGP with you no matter how many times you've asked, so you're complaining to NANOG about it because you don't have the ability or authority to change providers? Please correct me if I'm reading this wrong, but the emails so far haven't been very clear and this isn't making a lot of sense.